I think I am in love with my secretary

Question: I am a 37-year-old unmarried man. I broke up with my long time girlfriend a few years ago and since it was a bitter break-up, I decided never to get married. Recently, I hired a female secretary. She has become a friend and we are more than just colleagues. In fact, I think I like her and she too feels the same way about me. But the situation is complex. To begin with, I don't trust myself with getting into a relationship once again because it will cause me emotional turmoil and secondly, I am worried about people talking about us at my workplace. I am totally confused.

Answer: For the sake of work ethics and discipline at your office, respect professionalism at the work place. Try not to enmesh boundaries of your professional and personal life.

Try to analyse what went wrong in your previous relation. This shall perhaps give you an insight to help you avoid repeating certain mistakes of the past.

If you share a mutual bond, try to understand each other's priorities, perspectives, likes and interests. Marital relationship requires mutual trust, care, understanding, commitment and love. Since you are in a commanding position in office and she is working under you, make an effort to understand whether or not her decision is solely based on your position. Do not be in haste. Spend some time understanding each other before taking the decision. Once you take the decision after due consideration, try to see the positives in your decision.

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