GUY FEAR #1: My sexual desires are not okay
I won’t tell you that
old thing about how guys want way more sex than women do, because it’s actually
not true. Women want it, we just want it under different terms. He just… wants
it. Every possible way he can imagine it. With your sister, your mom, the
librarian (definitely the
librarian), the teenager snapping her gum behind the cash register. He’s even
had a dirty fantasy about that weird shopping cart lady.
Sex movies of every
description (multiple lovers, bondage, fetish, you name it) run in his brain
nearly all the time, and sometimes what’s showing on the screen shocks even
him.
Deep down, he’s
terrified that he wants sex too much, or in the wrong ways, with the wrong
people. His sex drive is a formidable machine, and it’s a testament to his
power that he doesn’t let it drive his life, only his brain.
GUY FEAR #2: Other men will think I’m weak
You gotta feel for the
men of our world. They’re expected to get a respectable paycheck, make us feel
secure, (not think about sex so much), beat out the other guys, support the
winning team, be tough, overcome all the obstacles in their way, scare away the
bad guys and never show fatigue, fear, or anything except sheer strength
and confidence.
It’s a lot to live up to. It’s impossible to live up to,
actually.
And yet that’s the challenge they hear every single day. And if
they don’t answer it – actually DOMINATE it – their fear is that they will be
publicly shamed, humiliated, despised… Not so much by you or by other women
(although they hate the idea of that, too), but by other men.
But that doesn’t mean
you don’t have power. Every man wants a woman who is unreservedly,
whole-heartedly on his side. Your support actually adds to his power in the
world of other men.
good knowledge..
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